Week 1
Compassion, Clarity, Connection: Living an Integrated Life
Week 1 (4/28/25) Home Practice
Hi Everyone,
As I mentioned in our first session each week I’ll be sending out a little teaching for reflection/to help inform our practice at home each week. Here is the first one.
As we begin our inquiry I wanted to highlight the power of the mind/heart that has the capacity to change its relationship to our experience. I highlighted how we suffer when we don’t have a clean crisp inner relationship to what we see, and how when we do, experience is the same but our relationship to it can significantly change for the better.
Please use this opening salvo from the classic early Buddhist book, the Dhammapada, to help point us to having a fresh awareness-based relationship to the world and our own inner experience. This is not meant to be moralistic but rather practical.
How can practice, in daily life and formal sessions, give me space, nourishment, moments of freedom in the midst of experience? “Practice” can be mindfulness of breath/body, a kind thought or action, or a simple recognition that awareness is functioning in the here and now, independent of what is being known.
“All experience is preceded by mind, Led by mind, Made by mind. Speak or act with a corrupted mind, And suffering follows As the wagon wheel follows the hoof of the Ox. All experience is preceded by mind, Led by mind, Made by mind. Speak or act with a peaceful mind, And happiness follows like a never departing shadow.”
-Dhammapada (first verse, Gil Fronsdale translation)
A second quote from the Buddha brings this into a simple inquiry of cause and effect playing out:
“When this exists, that comes to be. With the arising of this, that arises. When this does not exist, that does not come to be. With the cessation of this, that ceases”.
Samyutta Nikaya 12.61
Again, this is an invitation to work with our inner relationship to experience. For example: If I have a deeply judgmental thought about something and it triggers fear or anxiety, can I use my practice to see: “This is the actual experience, Ok, can I be with it as it is, without adding to or rejecting the experience, even just a little bit. How can my practice help?”
Enjoy the inquiry. I look forward to practicing together next week.
Matthew
Week 2
Compassion, Clarity, Connection: Living an Integrated Life
Week 2 (5/5/25) Home Practice
Hi Everyone,
For this week, please use this refrain to support your home practice:
Searching all directions
Rajan Sutta (Buddha talking to queen Malika)
with your awareness,
you find no one dearer
than yourself.
In the same way, others
are dear to themselves.
So you shouldn’t hurt others
if you love yourself.
As we continue to explore the foundation of compassion and non-harming to our dharma lives these words can be very helpful. They honor our own instinct for self-preservation and self-care.
But here, we need to see this through a dharma lens, which would encourage us to actually be kind to ourselves in how we are relating to our experience. After all, each changing moment makes up the sense of ‘who we are’ in any given moment. It is here we must practice ‘holding ourselves dear.’
Home Practice:
If you are drawn to either of the phrases we practiced in class below, please bring them into formal and or daily life practices, as works for you.
May I and all beings be free from suffering and the causes of suffering
May I and all beings have happiness and the causes of happiness
(this can be done with either phrase first) and/or
The metta phrase:
“may I be safe, be happy, be healthy, and live with ease”
and then possibly “may all beings….”
Here we can see how caring for self and others goes hand-in-hand and works to help us escape the thought bubbles of our self-preoccupation that can become a worldly misappropriation of the dharma use of the term self-kindness.
A complementary approach to any formal metta/compassion practice are the mindfulness practices (breath…) that we do that help us to calm ourselves and see experience clearly. In terms of the themes presented here, this is a natural kind of kindness that allows experience to unwind a bit so that we taste some ease. Present moment awareness helps us to cut the relentless tendency of our thoughts to make us believe in stories that separate rather than unite us (in respect for our common humanity and life in general). When we hold ourselves dear in this way, the sutta states, it is only natural that we extend the same energy to others.
Please enjoy the practice this week, and I look forward to practicing together, reflection and discussion next Monday evening.
Warmly,
Matthew